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First Post: 02-Feb-2010, 10:22 am Last Post: 02-Feb-2010, 4:39 pm |
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Les writes...  I very much doubt it. you're probably right Les writes... There was much more to it than just the $ there usually isn't Les writes... I don't intend to get into all that other stuff on a forum. and why would you? |
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Starfesh  thanks for telling me MCL was online!
MCL Ninja
posted 02-Feb-2010, 1:35 pm
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bolder writes... Parents are there to mend those hurts My mum is actually the worst offender of all, she creates more problems than she could ever solve. She was an only child and she tries to force my brother and I to stay in contact. I am sure she has a huge chip, the only child chip! My dad is one of three and during my first eighteen years of life, I hardly ever saw or heard from my uncles / aunts. So why was it alright for my dad not to bother with his siblings but I have to? It will take a huge time for me to truely get on with my brother again. Morgan was 2 on saturday and through her whole life she has only recieved a gift when she was born, and a fucking cheap dress that my parents brought over, (my mum tried to tell me it was an expensive dress but I knew the label and told her she was full of shit to her face). My brother professes to be into 'family' but he does not even write the Christmas card we got... I doubt we will recieve any birthday cards for the kids!!! At the end of the day, he is full of shit, and I don't need a pretend uncle in my kids lives when my wifes brother and sister are so awesome to them. Family can suck, but it is dependant on the person. |
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Starfesh writes... Family can suck, but it is dependant on the person.  I agree!Until I moved out of home, my sister and I had a shitty relationship... She realised how great I was after I left  and now we get on wonderfully  Same goes for my mum I guess, we never really communicated properly while I lived there. Once she saw I had grown up, it was much easier to talk to her! As for other family, I have always had a good relationship with my dads side of the family (except for my dad) they are wonderful people who have all the time in the world for you. On my mums side, I know they do not think much of me at all, and it does not bother me too much... the cousins on that side are much older than I am and we never connected very well like I did with my younger cousins on my dads side. I am going to stop here because I think that might be enough |
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mandyj writes... There is only so much you can say to a child, especialy an intelligent one who KNOWS exactly what is happening. Starfesh writes... Morgan was 2 on saturday and through her whole life she has only recieved a gift when she was born, It's sad when there are innocent victims in family wars but people can only be what they are, not what we necessarily want or need them to be. Just make sure they feel safe and secure in the love of their immediate family and I doubt they'll come to much harm. While extended families undoubtedly enhance a childs life, their security, sense of self and confidence mainly come from inside the immediate family. I think it's important that they never think it's a lack in themselves that causes the situation. |
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I get on with all the close members of my family. |
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I'm estranged, by choice, from all of my family, except for my father. Mostly I'm estranged because I burnt them all so bad when I was a junkie. But they are pretty much all fat inbred peices of shit so meh |
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Starfesh writes... My brother professes to be into 'family' but he does not even write the Christmas card we got... I doubt we will recieve any birthday cards for the kids!!! I am sad that this hurts you so much Feshy, I can't say anything which would console you, I just hope the love you give your immediate family and the love returned can. |
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User #84 45228 posts
Starfesh thanks for telling me MCL was online!
MCL Ninja
posted 02-Feb-2010, 2:10 pm
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bolder writes... I just hope the love you give your immediate family and the love returned can. I do, big time. |
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Starfesh writes... I do, big time. 
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mandyj writes... Does everyone get on with all their "close" family? Close family for me is my sister and my son's and my family by them.....grandchildren. mandyj writes... Are there people you don't like, or who don't like you? My DIL don't particularly like me, it started from the first day I met them and continues to some extend still today......that is 3 women.......I had to ask myself many times what was actually wrong with me......all the feedback I get seems to indicate that it is their problem not mine.....I was very close to my sons and it appears even DIL can get jealous when their husbands love another woman, even their mothers.....on DIL won't let me buy my son any clothing for a gift.....she insists on controlling everything to do with him.....  so in answer to your question, they don't like me all that much, and I don't like them due to them being dumb shits.  mandyj writes... Would you think it strange if say for example (hypothetically) a Grandfather wanted nothing to do with certain grandchildren and not the rest? I would think that very hurtful, esp for the children who may realise they were not liked as much as the next one......but reality is that we all gravitate toward those personalities who suit us best, even babies, even children. But it is up to the adults to pull their head in and try not to show the favouritism.......I know people who were left a whole estate by their aunts and uncles grandparents etc and their siblings left nothing in that case I think the sibling who benifited should share with the others, unless of course they have been an arsehole to the benifactor..So no, not strange, very common, but I think it not nice behaviour. mandyj writes... Would you be offended if you were cut out of one part of a family because they simply don't like you? Such as not being invited to events like Christmas and Baptisms etc. I would be horrifed and would attempt to work out the problem and if I could do anything to rectify it so all family could be included in family events.......eg: if you swore and certain people were anti swearing and having this foul mouth sailor around offended, I would ask the swearer to please modify the behaviour around those others. (pathetic example I know )  mandyj writes... Do you have a good relationship with your cousins and aunts and Uncles and their kids? We talk on Facebook, but for me it is difficult due to us all not being a big part of each others lives when growing up. |
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Oh! and when my ex DIL married again and had two sons by this second marriage, I always bought them birthday and christmas presents......mainly so their brother and sister (my two grandkids) would see only generosity and affection........so there would be no, thats theirs and this is ours. I think exclusion of children because of this sentiment is quite obscene. Kids is kids
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I have a fantastic relationship with my sisters and brother, we are more like friends, I love my mum and we are mates and I can tell her anything. I love visiting her in sydney , and miss jumping into bed with her when my step dad goes to work for a cup of coffee and a chat in the early morning . My dad and I have always had a close relationship , until recently and we havnt spoken for about 6 months , makes me sad , however we are both stubborn and neither one of us wants to be the first to say sorry.... As for my extended family, I get on with all of my cousins bar 2 ( the fat lazy cow thinks and told all my family that i was sleeping with her ex husband ) LOL |
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I grew up knowing my grandfather had a dislike for me. I'm still not sure what is was that caused it, but even from very young I knew about it. It all came to a header when I was about 14 (growing into an adult and being physically bigger than him etc) when I realised that I wasn't going to just keep living like that. We had a massive argument that resulted in me threatening to break him if he ever spoke down to me again... Well that must have worked because now we seem to get on great. It's a fucking selfish act when adults can't put aside their bullshit for the sake of children, who are definitely not stupid and can sense these things. |
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First Post: 02-Feb-2010, 10:22 am Last Post: 02-Feb-2010, 4:39 pm |
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